Transgender adults are not a new theory or issues in society. The fact of sex change operations and the rights of individuals that identify with the opposite sex, however is a new battle today. In past years individuals that were labeled one gender, but felt they belonged to the opposite gender were shunned and regarded as weird or abnormal. It is only recently that a term has been assigned, Gender Identity Disorder.
Many of the people living in the body of the wrong gender feel trapped and alone. Most are ashamed and afraid because of society’s harsh criticism and outcast techniques. There are many terms and names that have been assigned to transgender individuals, which can be considered derogatory, and for the use of exploitation in most cases. Transgender adults are considered an umbrella category in which there are many classes of individuals. One of the largest classes of transgender individuals are male-to-female transgendered people, who have breasts and other secondary sex characteristics typical of an adult female, but who have not undergone genital reassignment surgery. They are born males but identify with the female class and most often have characteristics of females. Generally a transwoman is a male with characteristics of a female that eventually begins to live as a woman. Most of them have more feminine characteristics and sometimes will even have female genitalia as well.
In some cases male-to-female transgendered people will undergo hormone replacement therapy and a breast implant to help with their life as a woman. This has a drastic affect on their lives and they face many issues in society that can devastate their life. Society does not have a good understanding of these individuals and they are often targets of cruel and harsh punishment. There are many jokes and issues of poking fun and very subservient treatment to transgendered people.
Shemales are a hot topic in the pornography industry. Many people are curious and will subscribe to websites and magazines to see what they are. This is a fantasy of many to be with an individual that exhibits characteristics of two different genders. Around the country there are also escort services that pride themselves in the specialty of shemale escorts. There is big money in the industry and many transwomen fall prey to the lures of financial gain.
Here are some facts about male-to-female transgendered people:
1. Male-to-female transgendered people do not feel like they are only half-female or half person. Most are offended by the media portrayal of the incorrect lifestyle. These individuals are normal people that you would not recognize as transgendered if they did not tell you
2. Most transwomen never go reconstructive genitalia surgery because they feel it is not necessary in their true identity.
3. Contrary to popular belief most male-to-female transgendered people are comfortable with the fact that they have male genitalia but live as a female.
4. Transwomen do not work any different or have lessened ability because they live in different clothes.
5. Regardless of the movie industry and pornographic portrayal most of them do not illicit illegal sexual acts or engage in fooling their partner.
6. According to the American Psychological Association there are approximately 1 in 30,000 individuals in America that transition from male to female and 1 per 100,000 that transition from female to male.
7. Male-to-female transgendered people are not gay, they simply feel that they are in the wrong gender body.
Donald List
http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/maletofemale-transgendered-people-94634.html
When should you tell a date that you are transgendered (male to female)?
I would say the 3rd date, but I would rather have a girl that still has the equipment, if you know what I mean
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That’s really up to you.
I think I’d tell them before we even have a date.
If they still go out with you that means they will like you for who you are
and not what you look like.
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Wow, that’s an interresting question. I’ve never even thought of that. I would assume it should be prior to sleeping with them.
Some guys have SEVERE homophobia, and finding out after the fact can cause them permanent damage, even fatal (a.k.a. suicide).
I honestly can’t tell ya. But best of luck in learning the proper time.
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when you first meet them, so they know who they’re dating
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I would prefer to know ASAP. Definitely do so before intercourse, if not within the first few dates.
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The first date no point in getting intimate if they dont know truth. it will save you both a lot of pain
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That’s up to you as long as you tell them eventually. You could tell them from the very beginning and risk rejection or you can wait a little bit longer and risk being called a liar or deceiver. I guess it depends on the person’s personality although you can’t accurately predict how each person would respond, I think if you wait a little before telling and they reject you, they would’ve rejected you anyways if you told them from the start.
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before you leave the house for the first date.
like really.
if your date isn’t into that, don’t tease.
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tell them on the third date but it HAS to be before yoy have sex with them x
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thats a really good question
im a not by nature a prejudice person at all
i accept anyone for themselves
i also have a great deal of respect for someone who has made a decision like that, to change themselves physically, in order to be happy and they deserve complete happiness
some who go through the process ((especially earlier to date)) actually give up some sensations just to be happier with themselves
even though i am so accepting, there are natural prejudices that we have as human beings, that cant be helped … for me if i were to be told in the beginning, i might experience reservations, where if given the chance to know the person within and have feelings and emotions develop for them, being told after the fact would not be an issue what so ever – ive met many transgender, both male to female and female to male – there are many, where you physically cant tell the difference
some more personal traits, when it comes to intimacy one might be able to tell, like male to female, lack of lubrication, but even then, if i were not informed of the physical change i would assume there was just a lack of attraction on their part where i was concerned sexually … in this case it would be important for me to know, if only for that reason … i know i would not like to think for a moment that someone i cared for so deeply was not sexually aroused by me
i would never fault another for waiting to tell me when they felt it was right … i have also found myself attracted to a transgender, even knowing right from the beginning that they were indeed transgender … i have also grown much with age and learned that what really counts is the person on the inside … i am fascinated by the transition, maybe to a fault, because those who i have been privy to have conversations with about their change, dont seem to care to delve into it too deeply, they would rather be known for who they are now physically, not then
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trannie girls who fool around first and then tell , often dont live to see 30 . It shouldnt matter , but guys can get violent over minor things , ask any married woman -
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I ’sd say on the first date so you dont waste your time and theirs.
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When you feel they should know. There isn’t any "right" time, in that everyone is different and individuality should be taken into account.
As for people feeling they have "a right to know"… *waves finger at them*. Do you have a right to know my blood type or what hospital I was born in too you arrogant mess?
I keep the vague guideline of before the bedroom, after a few dates, and somewhere that is public enough to ensure safety but private enough to make sure if your date gets distressed they don’t feel on display.
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Transman, me.
If you are post op I don’t see why you should its medical history. Although you need to tell them that you cannot have kids before it gets serious.
If your pre op then about the third date I guess.
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transdude
It’s your personal business and it’s up to you when and if to tell a date. The correct time is whenever you feel comfortable telling, and no sooner.
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It is a personal decision who, when or even if you should tell.
It is private medical information that is no ones business unless you want them to know. It is also a question if you are pre or post op.
If you are pre you will need to if you are planing to have an intimate relationship.
Post op it is up to you if ever.
My personal feelings are right now as pre I would tell a person. My feelings if they can not accept me for who I am I do not need them in my life. In a few months when I am post it will be my decision if I tell. If it is just a casual relationship I seriously doubt I ever would. It is my medical history and my business. They certainly aren’t telling me the most sensitive information in there medical file. If it had the potential to become serious I would most likely tell them. But only because I do not want them finding out at a later time. Being stealth anymore is impossible and a simple Google search of my name can lead them to a lot of information should they want to find it.
To all you who feel you have a right to know, no you do not. Just as I have no right to your private medical files.
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Trans Woman
I agree with Paula: This is PRIVATE medical information. I have NO obligation to tell anyone. The real thing that drives most questions like this is transphobia and most of you do NOT respect our gender identities. If you did this question wouldn’t be an issue.
I choose when and IF to say anything.
To the questioner: This also highlights why I don’t like the term "Male to female" because I was NEVER male!!! Again that’s transphobia for you people who believe that. I was born transsexual (mind-body mismatch), literally a female brain in a male body. And since it is our brains who make us who we are I have always been female. I just changed the outside to match the inside so now I’m whole like the rest of you.
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This is a difficult problem. As Paula and Leah have pointed out, nobody is obligated to discuss their medical history with anyone. A transsexual person who has transitioned wants to be treated just like an ordinary, non-transsexual person.
At the same time, transsexualism is never truly "cured", it is only treated. Transsexualism a part of who we are, even after transition, so it’s a double-edged sword. A transsexual person no more wants to be with a bigot than the bigot wants to be with the transsexual person. If the subject is never broached, then the longer the information is withheld, the greater the potential fallout can be if it is ever revealed accidentally. In this day and age, it is virtually impossible to keep ones life private, and anyone with a computer can snoop around and find out facts about just about anyone born in a modern country like the United States.
So do you tell, or not tell, and when? This is the great conundrum facing all transsexual people. My personal feeling is this… a partnership (any kind) is based on trust. If you are planning to build a life together with someone, its important to know that you can count on that person to support you, and vice-versa. When you withhold something from your partner because you are afraid they may react badly, you are undermining the building of your life together. It is better to know sooner, rather than later, if something about you is going to be a deal-breaker for the other person, so I believe you need to tell your partner, but not until you feel comfortable and that the time is right.
If you choose not to tell them, then you are essentially like a person living in a witness protection program. For as long as you are together, you will need to have a fabricated past with airtight alibis, no contact with anyone who knew you pre-transition, have explanations for ANYTHING relating to your post-operative condition, and the ability to make sure nothing about your birth identity ever shows up in public records, etc… a virtual impossibility. All it takes is a distant relative dying and leaving you a large inheritance, or some ghost from the past tracking you down, to mess up your life royally.
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I agree with Paula, Leah and Erica. My medical history is my business and no one else, my husband and my family know my history and that’s all who needs to know.
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Just A Woman Born transsexual